Changing the stories we inherit.
He Is Not Your Project is a relationship literacy organisation dedicated to preventing domestic violence through education, research, and systemic change.
1 in 4 women in Australia has experienced intimate partner violence since the age of 15.
— Australian Bureau of Statistics, 2023
Why we exist
Violence doesn't begin with a fist. It begins with a story.
Domestic and family violence is not a private matter. It is a public health crisis rooted in the stories we are told — and the stories we tell ourselves — about relationships, power, and what love looks like.
We believe that relationship literacy is the missing piece in our prevention efforts. When young people learn to recognise unhealthy dynamics before they become patterns, when educators have the tools to name what they see, and when communities understand the conditions that allow violence to thrive — we change the story.
He Is Not Your Project exists to build that literacy. Systematically. Evidentially. With urgency.
Our framework
The Relationship Literacy Framework
Our evidence-based framework provides a structured approach to understanding, teaching, and embedding relationship literacy across schools, professional practice, and community settings. It draws on decades of research in developmental psychology, trauma-informed practice, and prevention science.
What we do
Education that changes outcomes.
The Book
A foundational text for educators, practitioners, and anyone working to understand the roots of relationship harm and the evidence for prevention.
Get the Book
School Programs
Curriculum-aligned programs for teachers and students that build relationship literacy from the ground up — age-appropriate, trauma-informed, and evidence-based.
School Programs
Professional Courses
Specialist training for professionals working with young people and victims of domestic violence — building capacity where it matters most.
Professional CoursesOur impact
We measure what matters.
500+
Schools reached by 2030
10,000
Educators trained nationally
250,000
Young people reached annually
Partner with us
This work requires all of us.
We partner with schools, universities, government agencies, health services, and community organisations to embed relationship literacy where it is needed most. If your organisation shares our commitment to prevention, we want to hear from you.
"Prevention is not a program. It is a culture. And culture is built through education."